The Story Behind BOKAYES: A Legacy of Love and Wildflowers
Life has a way of surprising you. Sometimes, the journey to what you want most is long, winding, and filled with unexpected challenges. Other times, what you never thought possible lands in your lap like a perfectly wrapped gift. Our story- the story of BOKAYES is a little bit of both.
The Road to Parenthood
For years, my husband, Tyrel, and I dreamed of becoming parents. It didn't come easy. After multiple rounds of IVF, surgeries, and heartbreaking losses, we finally welcomed our first son, Wellington Bo
Kirkham, on April 18, 2023. He was our miracle, our greatest joy, our introduction to parenthood. From the moment he arrived, he lit up our world- curious, silly, full of rhythm and life. Watching him grow into this vibrant little boy has been the greatest privilege of our lives.
I felt deeply empowered to share my IVF journey on social media- where conversations around fertility treatment are often missing, and access is even more limited. I shared everything - the injections, the heartbreaks, the waiting, the hope- because I wanted other women to know they weren’t alone. I wanted to be a resource, a voice, a friend in a space that often feels isolating. If my journey could help even one woman navigate her own path to motherhood, then every moment of vulnerability was worth it.
And then, life threw us the most beautiful curveball.
An Unexpected Gift- Revealed on Mother’s Day
We had made peace with the idea that if we ever wanted to grow our family, we would have to go through IVF again. That was our reality or so we thought. So when I found out, at 40 years old, that I was pregnant naturally, I was in complete shock. We had been told it wasn’t possible. But somehow, someway, my body did what I was told it couldn’t do.
I found out the news a week before Mother’s Day and held onto the secret. I wanted to give Tyrel the surprise of his life on a day that already carried so much meaning for us. That Sunday morning, before anything else, I handed him a poem I had written - one that reflected on our journey, the kind of father and husband he is, and the way he makes it possible for me to be the mother I am today. It was a love letter to him, to us, to our family. And at the very end, I revealed the greatest surprise of all: We have another one on the way. I rolled Wellington over who was sleep in between us, had slept in a shirt that read ‘Big Brother’.
There, in the quiet of that morning, we celebrated the impossible becoming possible. Mother’s Day took on a whole new meaning. It was no longer just a day to reflect on the journey that brought Wellington into our lives - it was now the day our hearts expanded even more.
And just two days before Christmas, on December 23, 2024, Jaxsen Kayes Kirkham was born.
Jaxsen’s arrival wasn’t just a surprise- it was a reminder. A reminder of resilience. A reminder that the impossible can happen. A reminder that sometimes, the most beautiful things in life come when you least expect them.
We came home from the hospital on Christmas Day, holding the greatest gift we could have ever asked for. And just like that, our little family of three became a family of four - plus our dog Jesse Jac - who’s still adjusting to the chaos of two little humans under two.
Why BOKAYES?
Wellington Bo, Jaxsen Kayes. Bo & Kayes. BOKAYES.
Our son’s middle names, woven together, became the foundation of this brand. It’s more than just a name- it’s legacy. It’s family. It’s the continuation of the love and strength passed down from our grandparents & parents, who are no longer with us but live on through their grandkids.
BOKAYES is our way of giving back. Not just to our boys, but to our community. It’s about celebrating life while we have it. About showing love, appreciation, and gratitude in meaningful ways. About giving people their flowers while they’re still here to receive them- not just the kind that wilt and fade.
Every piece we create- whether it’s a graffiti spray can vase filled with faux florals, a hoodie with embroidered bouquets, or a custom keepsake that tells a story- is a way to honor someone. A way to say, I see you. I appreciate you. You matter.
A Weekly Tradition of Giving Flowers
Starting this spring, we’ll highlight someone who deserves their flowers- a creative, a community leader, a loved one making an impact. Through these stories, we’ll connect our curated product collection to moments of appreciation, celebration, and legacy. Because BOKAYES isn’t just about selling things- it’s about creating experiences, starting conversations, and making sure people feel seen while they’re still here.
A Wildflower Kind of Life
Our house is wild. Loud. Beautifully chaotic. A mix of baby giggles and cries, toddler energy, and the occasional moment of peace (rare, but they exist). Some days feel like a blur, others like a masterpiece. But through it all, we are grateful.
We named this company BOKAYES not just for our sons, but for the journey that led us here. It’s a reflection of our past, a celebration of our present, and a promise for the future.
A bouquet that never stops blooming. A legacy that never fades.
Welcome to BOKAYES.
Adar Kirkham
aka Mama